I say this often enough that I felt like it deserved a seed of written thought.
I do this all the time, to the point that I'm worried that I'm being annoying. If you've received 8 @s from me in a row sending you links of shit, I sincerely apologize. *But* it also is me at my best, I'd argue.
For me sharing links is a love language because when I do it I'm trying to signal that:
- I am paying attention to the things you care about
- I am interested in what you're interested in
- This link is my attempt to confirm that understanding
All of this is subconscious btw - I'm only truly thinking about what it means in depth as I write it. But looking back, it's what I'm effectively doing. Part of it is probably born from my [[Dealing with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria|RSD]]:
> If you like the link I sent then we're still friends! There's nothing silly about this thought-process at all.
But part of it is also just growing up on the internet, I'd assume? Living on forums when I was a teen, I've always been used to conversations built around specific topics. This has always worked for me because I'm bad at small talk. I never think to ask someone "how their day is" because it doesn't interest me. But an established topic? Now I have rules of engagement, haha.
Hell I share links all the time even without tagging people in my personal server, which tends to lead to conversations anyways. So I guess part of link-sharing for me is a way to keep in contact with my friends throughout the day, before we get in a voice-chat later that day or week or whatever.
So yes, that's why I'm always hitting you with links like I'm your personal RSS feed. Enjoy LMAO
> [!NOTE] Note
> This goes both ways, by-the-by - if you share a link because it reminded you of me, I will deeply appreciate it, lmao.